What I Learned From A Year of Not Dating

Can you believe it’s already been a year? I made a decision to purposely not date for a year. Here is the short version of the blessings and heart lessons I learned.

Put GOD first, regardless of my status.
“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”
Deuteronomy 6:5

Deal with the old wounds.
“Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled”
Hebrews 12:15

Deal with the anger.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”
Galatians 5:22-23

Deal with childhood memories.
“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ.”
Philippians 3:13-14

Confront the sin that may have formed into bad habits.
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
Romans 12:1-2

Love God more.
“God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.” John 4:24

Keep reading His Word and learn what it means.
“For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; That ye might walk worthy of the Lord unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God; Strengthened with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness.”
Colossians 1:9-11

Start with the Gospel. With everything.
“And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.” Colossians 1:17

Invest in eternity.
“Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” Matthew 18:18

Single or otherwise – embrace God’s best.
“I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.”
Philippians 4:12

God is still speaking to my heart on different areas of growth that I know He wants me to tend to before I enter a sacrificial relationship. I am so thankful that He has walked with me through those greyer moments, when I had to face truths about myself that I didn’t particularly want to deal with. I praise the Lord that He still covered me with His grace, forgave me for my sins and renewed my heart so I can serve Him. I am deeply thankful that He showed me I could change.



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