My church asked that I give a special session for single moms at our annual ladies’ day event. As a single mom, this was very exciting and humbling. God wastes no experience and He was already using my situation as a single mom to help me share His love and victory with other women.
In a room of nine ladies, including two single grandmothers raising their grandchildren, I shared this lesson as tools for single moms on how to build their lives according to God’s design. The prevalent verse was I John 4:19, “We love him, because he first loved us.” (KJV)
As single moms, we are very busy and in charge of a lot of decisions. We feel pulled in different directions and are constantly balancing priorities. With all the exertion, do we forget to let God love us?
Bible reading is good. Attending church is good. Serving the Lord is good. All these require energy and we can get wrapped up in showing God, “Look how much I love you by all these things I do. All these things I don’t do. Look, Lord. Look how much I love you.”
While our efforts are important, may I remind us to frame our to-do lists as opportunities in how we LET God love us. You can picture the arm motions of bringing something big and tall INTO and ONTO our bodies as a way to illustrate how we can allow to love us.
The first point is salvation. To a room of Christian women, this might seem basic. But I urged them to revisit the basics. The building of block of salvation means that we have a:
A. Foundation in Christ
B. Foundation for Our Home
The big task is already done: that Jesus died on the cross for our sins. That means that our experiences are filtered through Christ. The status of a single mom may carry a stigma. Sometimes we are slighted in subtle ways. Being a single mom through widowhood also has its unique wounds. But it is so important that we root our identity in CHRIST and not our circumstance or the sting of culture.
We shouldn’t get tired of the act of love that has already been given through the gift of salvation. To add, if there are children in the home who haven’t accepted Christ, then we don’t want to get in the way of bringing them to the Lord. We must make it as easy as possible for them to hear the Gospel and to be nurtured with a loving and godly church community.
Salvation is also the foundation for our home. The choices and boundaries we make in our homes change when Jesus is the head of the home. The expression of love and enforcement of discipline, training and forgiveness take on a new dimension when the Holy Spirit is involved. I Corinthians 3:10 summarizes this foundation principle beautifully, as it reads, “According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.”
More lessons to come.